No, no. This isn’t one of those “How is a raven like a writing
desk?” jokes… But how in the world is a submissive person like a shoe? I’m
getting to that.
Disclaimer: My thoughts are my thoughts… you may not agree with
them and I in no way want to tell you how you should do things.
One of the things I’ve been doing lately for E, when I get the
chance, is caring for his shoes. Cleaning them, polishing them, etc. I don’t
get the opportunity often, because I don’t get much time with him, but I’ve
been thinking about it and about how I feel while I’m doing it. It’s a bit like
the mirrors I mentioned in a previous post. I want to do my best because it’s
for him, but also, it’s a bit more…
His shoes are something he uses every day, pretty much all day
to protect his feet. With 26 bones, 33 joints, 107 ligaments, 19 muscles
and tendons in each foot, the 52 bones in both feet make up about 25% of all
the bones in the body and, though the foot has evolved over time,
stepping on sharp rocks, broken glass, and stubbing the toes are still pretty
unavoidable risks without shoes. The right shoe can prevent or alleviate foot,
ankle, knee, hip, and back pains, while the wrong choice can worsen or cause
similar pains. Bad or worn out shoes can even cause misalignment in the spine
and lead to problems throughout the entire body. A shoe isn’t just a mirror
he glances into on his way by; it’s something that, in its way, defends him.
Are you beginning to see the similarities now? The right
submissive can prevent or alleviate pains (troubles, stressors, drama, etc.)
and the wrong one can cause or worsen it! Being the right submissive (at least
we both feel so at the moment), I should seek to relieve his stresses, soothe
him or avoid them altogether. I mention that bad or worn out shoes can even
cause misalignment of the spine and lead to problems throughout the body; this
is also true of submissive persons. I may not call the shots, but the attitude
of my service and the efficiency in which I complete my tasks can very well
make or break the entire order of things. Now, I’m not talking about a person
that submits for kicks and giggles (though I do that, too sometimes), but a
person that lives this way, that feels submission in their core, whether
naturally or as a calling. But I, in my way, should defend him as I can by
making his life as stress free and well ordered as possible. He, in turn,
relieves my stress by taking the weight of decision from me in most cases…
among other things. ;)
Shoes also play a factor in the image a person presents. Whether
in a corporate, casual, kinky or other setting, the way we look is often the
first impression we make. While, shoes may seem a minor part of that image,
they have more of an influence than one might think. An unwise choice can
make an expensive outfit look cheap and stylish outfit look, well, absurd. And
then they make us look, well, cheap or absurd. If the
shoes are unkempt, it indicates a lack of care, a rough life, and if they’re
not designed for the rough, then that judgment is also a judgment of us. No
matter what’s on the inside. We should not be deceived by shoes, just as we
shouldn’t be fooled by clothes, but we often are.
In caring for E’s shoes, I care for the image he presents to the
world. Those shoes say a lot about this man I love… They’ve obviously been
walked in. They’re creased and have a few scuffs and you can tell they’ve been
worn and worn often. To me this says “He does.” He does a lot of things and I
struggle often to keep up and work my way into his busy life when I can. Even
when he’s not going and doing, his mind is still working on something for when
he is going and doing. Despite being worn in, the shoes are clean and have a
good sheen. They’re well cared for, even when I can’t care for them. And he
cares about what he does too. No matter what it is, he puts care and focus into
what he’s doing.
I’ve noticed when this starts slipping, so do the shoes. When he
gets caught up in something or another and stops putting that care and focus
into his actions, the shoes might stay dusty and unpolished for a while. Now,
this may be just my perception due to difficulties we’ve had lately, but it
seems to be the case.
My image reflects on him as well. I am his. It is known that I
am his. My grooming, my actions, my manners, my habits, my dress and all the
things that make up how others view me, these things affect how others view him
too.
Shoes can also be confidence boosters. I know how I feel in a
favorite pair of heels. Teens whine and beg for the latest pop star’s or sports
star’s brand because imitating their favorite star makes them feel “cool” (Do
they still use that term?). It’s a brain thing. It just makes you feel good to
wear great shoes. Call it a morale booster, a matter of pride, whatever.
Why do you think we pay so much for designer shoes? (ok.. I don’t, but some
people do…) I want my Sir to feel good about himself when he’s wearing those
shoes. I want my Sir to feel good about himself when he’s wearing me too…
hahaha but you get the point.
So yes, in a way, I’m like these shoes. It makes sense for me to
care for them, just as I care for myself. Well and with him in mind.
Surrina, I love this post. I have often said that I am a reflection of Ward. When people look at me I want them to see the very good man to whom I belong. I want him to be elevated in their eyes.
ReplyDeleteI want to be his soft place to land, and I want coming home to be the sigh of relief at the end of his work days.
Thank you, June! I'm glad you related to it. My mind drifts to such things often while I'm doing a task E has set for me, especially in his presence.
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