Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own
submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a
particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial
submission? Do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?
Yes. E and I have a loose budget set for me right now. We don’t
live together at the moment (unfortunately, but I’m trying to be patient on
that) so it’s difficult to create an itemized budget, and I don’t know that
he’d want to do that even if we were living together.
We have an entire portion of our Rule Book dedicated to
Finances and Employment… I’ll just copy paste it here…
Finances
and Employment
1. Each party understands that prior to engagement of said
relationship both have acquired certain personal property and wealth. These
items do not become the property of the Owner once the relationship has been
entered into that they remain the sole responsibility of their owner. Should
the Submissive desire to relinquish any or all property then she may do so and
then and only then does it become the responsibility of the Owner.
2. The Submissive understands that she is expected to complete her
college degree.
3. A budget will be set for the Submissive regardless her state of
employment. Any deviation from that budget is considered worthy of punishment
as seen fit by the Owner.
4. The Submissive must propose all major expenditures to the Owner
for approval; this includes any singular purchase over $50 and any unnecessary
purchase for pleasure or recreation over $20 with the exclusion of items that
may be returned for full refunds, in which case the item must be approved by
the Owner as soon as possible after purchase and with the receipt.
5. Should the Submissive maintain gainful employment outside the home
after the relationship has been entered into then all moneys and accumulation
by the Submissive belong to the Submissive, however the Owner maintains all
final decisions and shall allow the Submissive to discuss matters regarding
investments and moneys spent for the benefit of the relationship. Both parties
agree that while at work neither shall do or cause to happen anything that may
jeopardize the others employment, understanding that each must maintain bills
and together, a household.
6. Should the Submissive not be required to maintain gainful employment
outside the home, her duties shall be maintaining the family and the home
ensuring that it is kept proper and clean at all times and that meals are
prepared in accordance with the Owner's wishes and in doing so fulfills her
financial obligations to the home. The Owner shall maintain any medical
insurance necessary and assume financial responsibility for the Submissive. The
Owner shall also establish a savings fund for the Submissive and maintain it,
contributing to it regularly so that should the relationship dissolve the
Submissive has a means to sustain herself until she may either find gainful
employment or make other arrangements.
I don’t pay him. He doesn’t pay me. He guides me and helps
me prepare for my future and the future of my children… and our future
together. I know there are other arrangements that aren’t so… advantageous. I
am blessed to have a good man as my Dominant; a good man that loves and takes
good care of his girl.
I don't like the concept of turning over one's entire
income to a Dominant that one is not married to or without other legal
provisions. I don't like the thought of a Dominant not caring for his
submissive's future financially if such a situation is arranged. I've heard
horror stories of subs that turn over their entire life, including money, to a
Dominant and when they are, for some reason, released, they are turned out
without a penny or a place to go. I am aware that this is not the norm, but it
frightens me to know that it happens sometimes.
I often have trouble with numbers and I struggle with
impulse buying. This is the reason I have never and do not currently have a
credit card. I realize that this is something I need help with and, as with
everything else, I turn to my Sir for it. I update him with my account balance
occasionally, though he doesn't require it, so that he can know how well or how
poorly I am managing what I have. Yes, it's another measure of submission, but
I really don't make the effort for it. It's just what seems right. I know that
if I am not held accountable for this more than once a month I will more than
likely spend more than is needed on things that aren't needed and be without
money for the things that I do need... like gas or money for a bill. E helps
keep me on track.
Quite often I've been late for a bill payment. Quite often
I've missed a bill payment... for absolutely no reason... just because no one
made me pay it, I suppose... Now I have someone to make me and I'm grateful for
it.
Is
sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants,
part of your submission? Why or why not? Are there limits to this?
Yes, I am
always to be available sexually to my Sir. It is this way because we both enjoy
it. There are limits, our safety, the safety and well being of my children, and
our public reputations dictate the appropriateness of time and place, but
otherwise… that’s pretty much it. I belong to him, he uses me when he wants…
ok. Sometimes when I want too. ;) but that’s easy as I usually ‘want’.
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